A Simple Me... in my Simple World

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Tuesday, March 30, 2010

fast and furious

went driving the test route on the US highway... very fast as the min speed is 70miles per hr which is equivalent to 112km per hr. scary part is that no one drives at the min speed. all drives goes faster and faster... but the good thing is that, the highway here is different fr SG. there is no jam at all unless there is an accident, the lanes are bigger and so far the drivers are quite polite.

i guess just need to practice more before can book the actual driving test...





Thursday, March 18, 2010

driving...me nuts~~~

learning to drive fr Mr Ong can be fun, exciting, rewarding yet frustrating at the same time... 



fun because never drive before so looking forward to it...


rewarding as able to complete the items Mr Ong taught



frustrating because the way I communicate with Mr Ong always ends up shouting confused and irritated.... he confess that he cannot teach ppl anything, while i need clear instructions and patience fr him since i got physco-motor prob....hahahaa

i have very easily irritable temper that needs coaxing every now and then, while Mr Ong being an engineer is practical and logical, not forgetting he speaks quite loudly in the enclosed area in the car most of the time while learning to drive, I almost wanted to crash the car when we speak...muahaha that bad ar.. 

When we talked about it, he commented that i'm typical sporean, cannot take criticism constructively, always think ppl's criticism is personal towards me and i'm very sheltered... because he speaks abit too loud, i tink that all his comments towards me are very negative.. 

i beg to differ, I told him, not that i cannot take constructive criticism, and i do take them positively and i also know he meant well, but all i ask for is to just be more patient with me and if possible lower down his voice when we are in the car.. i can hear my ear drum humming every time after driving.. its stressful enough trying to concentrate to reverse into the parking lot without banging into the the 2 cars beside me and having someone saying things into my ear.. cannot multi-task in this instance. 

hahaha i told him i did better when he did not say anything versus when he was saying alot of things to me at the same time while doing the reverse parking.. Instead he said why didnt i notice he kept quiet when i did correctly... muahaha.... sometimes its so funny how much i hate and love him for the things he say.. hhahaa

Mr Ong also commented that he's a typical engineer and engineer makes good husband, not good lover... muhahahaa... 

hahah cannot blame anyone, afterall, i chose to marry an engineer....muahahah

i guess every relationship and marriage should be like this, balanced with love, joys, laughters, anger, bickering, kisses, hugs, understanding, patience, compromise and trust.

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Picture Perfect

to me,

a perfect morning is soft rattling rain hitting against the window, 
snuggling against my beloved under the sheets... 

a perfect afternoon is a cup of Earl Grey, great music and a even better book... with no cares in the world.. only me enjoying the moment...

a perfect evening is home-cook dinner, no dishes to wash,
and a good movie..

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Spring is coming...

Spring is coming.. i can feel the warm sun on my skin, the snow melting away, the birds are back singing, the flowers and trees are blooming again....

Once spring is here, that would be summer will be here before i know it.. yeapi!!!!

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

????????

besides the happy moments here abroad, i have been feeling frustration and anger pending up in me for the last few months... for a moment i'll be luffing at a silly thing, yet another moment i could be feeling frustrated at the same silly thing..

there are times where i would have so much energy that i'll plan out a list of things to complete, but there are also times that i feel restless to do anything....

is it really due to the fact that now i have so much time on hand since i'm not working, lesser interaction with ppl, only spend time cooking, doing house work, and using even less brain power and the lack of sun that made me feel like this??

I'm not the only one feeling like this, in fact, most of the women i met here accompanied their husbands here for their grad studies do.

Generally all of us have the same prob: we are all excited to come here to experience a different kind of lifestyle fr where we came from. Coming here, everything starts fr ground zero, fr making frens, getting use to the culture, how to spend lots of free time and etc. everything is so different as u are already use to the familiarity that you feel back home. But i'm luckier as i speak English and dont have any language barrier. But there are a handful of the women here do not speak English as their 1st language which makes it even harder for them to live around here and to do things on their own when their husbands are not around. Although there is an existing support group for us here, with monthly gatherings and other side activities to keep us occupied, it can only helped to an extend.

Anyway, i did not join any of it, as u will hear the same thing over and over again fr the other women, like, how busy are their husbands, how often are they alone when their husbands are at sch, how they spend their time alone, how depressed they feel as they feel kinda powerless as before coming here they work and felt liberated etc... keep hearing all these sure will get depressed! No wonder there are alot of depressed support groups around too.. but i doubt any of them will get help as perhaps they do not know they are depressed, just like a crazy dude will not know he is crazy...

well well well.... some might say i'm lucky and should enjoy where all these freedom last and just shut up and not complaint. Of cuz i i'm grateful or enjoying all these, its just that i cant help feeling this way ma. if i can help i wont feel this way what..

well well well.. humans always not contended with what we have and always envy what others have... even monks also corrupted so let alone us commoners....

Monday, March 8, 2010

Drivers Written Test

yeah!!! pass the driver's written test.. which is equivalent to SG's basic theory....
i'll need to practice driving for at least 30 days then can book the actual driving test... when i pass that, ill get my Michigan State Driver's License... so much faster, cheaper and easier to pass then in SG... hahahah when go back SG, just need to take Basic Theory and convert the license... yeapi!!!

Driving on the road is easy, but as i (tink i) got psycho-motor problem, so reverse parking, 3 point turn and parallel parking will need lots more practicing ...muahhaha.. well well.. at least over here will still be easy to pass.. cannot complain can only practice more..

辛苦 Mr Ong already, got to bear with the motion sickness when teaching me to drive.. he cannot take it if he is not the one driving... muahahha guess this is the only time i can make him puke.... muahahahahaa

Friday, March 5, 2010

I need to learn....

to be more patient,
to control my temper,
to say what i want to say,
to be less emo,

=)

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Skiing (01 March 2010)

we went skiing again... this time, to Mt Holly instead. Its so much more fun than the last place we visited... well at least for beginner like us, the slopes were not too intimidating... which makes it easier to learn.. and they even higher slopes which we could take the ski lifts up and ski.. hahaha this time round i did not fall as many time as the last.. abt 5-6 times throughout the 6 hours of skiing we did...and no twisted ankle...hahaha

Mr Ong was so much more better then me that he could film me while i come down the slope...if i film him, 95% he will have to change another camera, and i might twist my both my ankles...muahahha.. i still need to work on the turnings though...hahahahaha

Love the adrenaline rush of the speed.. and the wind blowing in my face and my hair flying like 白发魔女。。。 muhahahahaha